Most people are poor listeners
The phrase “listening is more important than talking” is very common to everyone. But does everyone understands the meaning of this statement? Not really.
Listening is a skill — and like any other skill, it takes time and serious effort to perfect it. For some people however — the lucky ones — this comes almost naturally to them.
How do you know you are not listening?
When having a conversation, do you pay attention to what is being said or you just listen to the first three words, and then sort of know what the other person is trying to say. Have you? Definitely NOT!
Why? When you assume that you already know what the other person is saying, it means that you have understood it from your perspective(maybe from prior experience relating to what is being said.) Now this is where the problem lies. You have assumed your own understanding is similar to that of your conversation partner.
But, is it? No! In the end, you will not have gained any insight/new information from the conversation. You sought explanations inside your head, by skimming through the first three words and believing you know what is being said. By doing this, you have denied yourself the chance to understand the perspective of the talker. As result, you won’t have the opportunity to compare the way…
